“We actually met on a gay dating app,” Tyler said. “Sizeism in particular is an insanely annoying issue and as annoying as it is for me I still benefit in the sense that I am built like a football player and people find that more attractive than someone who does not have a powerlifter’s build or just a muscular figure. He said: “There also is not enough action to dismantle these- isms from our community. Talk has intensified over the last two decades about the racism inherent within pockets of the gay community, and while some apps have taken action to curb it, racism remains an everyday reality for queer folk of colour.Īnd to Tyler, a black gay man, racism as well as classism and sizeism is not spoken about enough. “Part of our identity is being fat/heavy/thick, black and gay men and we want all people but especially those people to know that you do not have to have to have a certain look to find love,” he said.
